For a boy to stick a letter on the windshield of a girl’s car- he must be pretty clueless about the rules of socializing. “Talking not stalking” is the key.  Also- don’t tear a piece of envelope and write the note in pencil. You look as if you took no time in preparation. He must have thought about it for a while, because the poor fool KNOWS how “crazy” it is. I think maybe if he would have used a normal sheet of paper, it would have come off less crazy…

  I know guys think that asking if a girl has a boyfriend is a way to show that their interested- but for me it’s just rude. You could take the time to freaking pay attention? How about talk to me, like a normal human being? I could talk to you even though I have a boyfriend. But I sure as hell ain’t talking to someone who writes a creepy letter asking if I have a boyfriend. Ne-uh.

  I feel pretty bad for Timothy. I suspect that he must be one of the new guys that moved into the trailer next door. Rayce wasn’t at my house much in the last weeks he was here b/c we were both so busy, and I mostly sleep at his house b/c his feet hang off of my bed.

  Poor Timothy is clueless to the fact that I am in an almost 2 year relationship with a man that I love, who happens to be across the country right now. So I don’t really have proof that I have a boyfriend right now b/c he’s not here. Unless Timothy does like any other normal college student would and Facebook-stalk me.

  I am perfectly fine with someone Facebook-stalking me b/c I’m unaware of it. To me, a silent admirer is better than a creepy one.

  I guess I feel better that it was stuck on my car and not on my porch, because that would be way too intrusive. He knows there are boundaries- that’s good. That tells me he’s not a legit-stalker. He just a mini-one. Or just an admirer that came off as a stalker b/c of the creepy medium of his message.

  I even thought about ways to communicate back to him that I have a boyfriend. I sure as hell am not calling him- he’d have my phone number… I could try sticking a response on my windshield and hope that he notices. Or maybe writing “I’m taken, but thanks” in white shoe polish on the back of my windshield.  I could just put my response on one of the new guy’s cars, but that’s assuming it’s one of them. It may not be, and I’d look pretty silly if it wasn’t.

  I even thought about having Rayce call him, since all of my guy-friends that I told the story to seemed happy to help by calling Timothy and informing him of my relationship status, and to leave me alone. One of the guy friends would have most likely offered him advice on how to approach women. Sweet, but unnecessary.  Thanks guys, but that’s ok.

  When I told Rayce, we thought it would be best to just ignore it and hope he gets the hint. If I get another message -I’ve been watching my passenger side windshield for the past 3 days- depending on the seriousness of the letter, I’ll choose my next choice of action, which may include:

1. Reporting him to the owner of my trailer park   or

2. Putting a poster board on the inside of my car, like a visor, that says “I have a boyfriend. Please get the hint.”

  Hopefully, this crush/admirer/ weirdo understands the meaning of the silent treatment.