I get them; so does your sister and your girlfriend- it’s called the girl-crush, and every girl knows what I’m talking about. They range from purely innocent “wow, she dresses really well and seems pretty cool” to “I would so turn lesbian for that girl just to see her boobs.” We just usually don’t talk about them because it is understood among fellow women what they are. But I thought, for the hell of it- I’d attempt to break it down and explain it. I currently have girl crushes on a few people, but I ain’t saying who. Shut up Rayce.

  The most common form of girl-crushes is admiration. You admire a classmates’ sense of humor and cute skirts, so that makes you want to be her friend. Or you admire one of your close friends for her energy and witty comebacks. Or you don’t even know the woman walking across the parking lot and you think, “Wow, I wish I could look that gorgeous and well-kept in the wind.. and OMG I love those shoes.”

  The second most common form of girl-crushes mostly surrounds around curiosity. You want to get to know this girl, for whatever reason. You secretly want to be her best friend because of how she brings out the best in people, or just because you guys seem to have a lot in common.  You wonder how she lives her life or what her favorite color is. You would also like to be a part of her life.  Now, most of these thoughts come and go- we’re not talking psycho stalker. It’s just the mere wonder of who she is and what she thinks about that makes you want to be her friend. Let me also add that most girl-crushes happen on girls you find physically attractive.

  The third most common form of a girl-crush is very similar to both of the previous ones I’ve mentioned. In fact, it’s kind of a mix of the two. It’s called “admiration of beauty.” Like when you see an older woman in the supermarket looking so cute, well-dressed and confidant that it makes you want to strive to be that beautiful when you get older. It’s like has an air to her that makes you think that she carries some kind of secret knowledge unknown to you because it comes with years of living beyond your years. Or this admiration can come in a form of someone your age or younger that you go “damn, that’s a pretty girl.” Now, from this step on you may or may not want to inquire about her personality that would leave to the curiosity of the previously discussed form. But for it to fall in this category you simply acknowledge her cute outfit, perfect hair and good posture and walk away.

  The only reason I consider this the fourth most common form of a girl-crush is because it mostly comes in the form of the previous three, but in a different way. This is the girl-crush on a celebrity. I have one on timeless beauty and sex icon Marilyn Monroe. I know I’ll never meet her, but I can’t help but admire her beauty, poise and sex appeal. I also have a girl crush on Jennifer Aniston in that I would love to share her clothes, share a cup of coffee with her and know what makes her tick because:

     1. I think she’s gorgeous

     2. I think she would be a really cool person

     3. I love her clothes

 I honestly think most girls can relate to this one entirely. You think they’re just so pretty and cool, and by golly- if you would get the chance to meet her, she would be your friend right away. While most likely the reality is that you would be a stuttering buffoon in her presence, it’s nice to think that you could handle her “awesomeness” if you really did get to meet her.

  The last form of a girl-crush borderlines lesbianism. Some girls might not want to admit this one to themselves, but it does exist. You’re a straight woman with a steady boyfriend and an active heterosexual sex life, but you can’t help but think you would so do a certain girl if you got the chance. It can be someone you know, someone you don’t know or a celebrity. Just as long as there is some kind of sexual stigma to your curiosity, it’s the borderline lesbian girl-crush.

  I feel safest confessing one of my somewhat lesbian girl-crush on a celebrity- Marrissa Miller. Yea, that gorgeous blonde goddess on this year’s Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition, which my boyfriend bought for me to have because he knows how much I love her. Honestly, I don’t think I could even be in her presence, let alone touch her, because I think she’s so damn hot. The woman is GEORGOUS! I could probably strive to have that kind of beauty my whole life and not even come close, but I’m ok with that. I’m not a goddess- she is. Check out www.marisamiller.com to see what I mean.

 
  I have every possible kind of girl-crush on this woman, all the past five which I’ve discussed. I’ve looked up information about her, looked at photos, gasped when I saw her on an episode of “How I met your Mother”- oh yea, it’s bad. I just admire her for being so beautiful and sexy. It’s like- holy crap, to possess that kind of beauty and confidence.. that’s simply incredible. She’s like my perfect woman, but so perfect to the point of me not wanting to touch her so that I may mess up her “perfectness” with my “me.” I’d much rather admire her from afar. She’d be naked though, of course.

  So there is the girl-crush in its many forms. First, I’d like to say that I may have gotten this completely wrong for some people, but it makes the most sense to me. Second, I’d like to say that is ok to admit to having a girl crush on someone. It’s probably a lot more common than you think, and someone probably has a girl crush on you and you just don’t know it. So just relax in the knowledge that you’re not alone. Whether it be a simple wardrobe admiration to an “I want to make-out with you with our shirts off”- it’s ok, really.